I'm very pleased to host Mari Barnes today as part of her virtual book tour for her book, My Peace Place. Mari is participating in D'Vorah Lansky's Book Marketing Boot Camp, which is where we 'met'. Take it away Mari!
Mari L Barnes writes for children under the pen name of Mari Lumpkin and for adults as ML Barnes. Her books, Parting River Jordan and Crossing River Jordan are proof that church can be funny. Mari’s company, Flying Turtle Publishing, specializes in books that families can share. Her latest children’s book, co- authored with Lori Bortnick, is My Peace Place.
Visit Flying Turtle Publishing’s Virtual Book Tour schedule and be entered to WIN a $10 Amazon Gift Card in our monthly drawing.
I read this recent
post from a discouraged new author: My friends don't seem very excited about my new book. Does no one read
anymore? I've sold 4 whole copies so far.
That did more than
ring a bell—it set a gong clanging in my mind. I remember those days too well.
Some friends and family weren’t even reading gift copies of my book, much less
actually spending money to support me. It created a hollow feeling unlike
anything I can adequately describe but despair, disappointment and betrayal all
come close.
How could they not
understand how important this is to me? Haven’t I bought every Girl Scout
cookie--supported every sport, church and school fundraiser? When little Cindy
Lou was selling crocheted key rings, who bought one in every color?
Well, Newbie
Author, know that you are in good company. Most of us have been where you are.
To be fair, some of my family members comprise my Tribe—steadfast supporters of
all things Mari. I think my mom is single-handedly responsible for the sale of
more than 200 books. My youngest sister shares and reTweets almost every post.
On the other hand,
my best friend (beyond death) didn’t read my first book until four years after
its publication. She was flat on her back after heart surgery and couldn’t do
anything but read for several days.
Here are some hard
facts:
1. We are the stars of only our own movies;
we’re in everyone else’s supporting cast. People who will take a bullet for you
just won’t understand this author thing. Unlike our characters (most of them,
anyway) the folks who populate our lives don’t always do or care about what we
think they should. My eyes glaze over when my husband waxes poetic about the
carburetor he’s rebuilding. That doesn’t mean I don’t adore the man. You can’t
take things personally. You’ll never survive the authorly life if you do.
2. Recognize that
writing, although an important part, is only a part of your life. Don’t disown
your family and friends because they can’t get behind you in one area.
3. Most of our books
will sell between 50 and 250 copies, if we’re lucky. If you’re writing to get
rich -- or even to pay the rent – you may want to hold onto your day job. The
majority of writers work at something other than writing.
Newbie, my advice to you: keep your eye on the why. Remember why you
write. If it’s to sell books, there’s a googol of book marketing experts out
there to help you reach that goal. You don’t have to depend on the largess of
loved ones. Using social media, you can work on building a global community of
people who appreciate your words.
If you’re writing
because you want to be read, you have so many options. Publish yourself one
chapter at a time; post your work on your blog or website. And join groups.
There are myriad online concaves of readers and writers who will enjoy meeting
you.
If you write
because you can’t NOT write, welcome to the fellowship! Keep your eye on the
why and keep writing.
Mari L Barnes writes for children under the pen name of Mari Lumpkin and for adults as ML Barnes. Her books, Parting River Jordan and Crossing River Jordan are proof that church can be funny. Mari’s company, Flying Turtle Publishing, specializes in books that families can share. Her latest children’s book, co- authored with Lori Bortnick, is My Peace Place.
Visit Flying Turtle Publishing’s Virtual Book Tour schedule and be entered to WIN a $10 Amazon Gift Card in our monthly drawing.
Comments
Thanks for dropping by and for the comment. You're right... the hardest part is getting started. You'll be surprised how it starts to flow once you do :) Good story tellers are often the best writers. My advice to you is to just start writing down those stories. If you need a jump start, I'm doing a writing retreat the first week of November (the 2nd Annual Phuket Paradise Writers' Retreat). If you'd like more info, let me know!
I experienced a lot of "hurt" around people who I thought would support my author-journey, and didn't. After a lot of soul-searching I did realise that it's MY journey, and my opinion is the important one here. Plus like you say - every person has their own list of priorities and if I build my happiness on what's important to them, I'm building my happiness on a very shaky foundation.
Thanks for the excellent points and judging on the number of comments, you've hit on a really valid and important pain point!
Warmly, Liesel
Ross, don't edit yourself in the beginning or worry about doing it right. Just write.